Valentines Day is coming! What you do depends on how long you’ve been dating, and what level of romance you want to bring. So if you’re out of Cupid’s day gift ideas, we have you covered. Here’s what to do this Valentines Day to ensure it’s not only awesome, but will likely, make you lucky too!

So you like each other but you haven’t made it official yet though you can see it heading that way. A great way to turn up the head and move the relationship forward is by planning dinner on Valentines Day! Though 62% of men think its just a Hallmark holiday, 55% of women disagree! So go ahead grab dinner and Valentine’s Day drinks! If it goes well don’t forget to suggest a night-cap at home and have some roses and wine waiting!

If you’re at the point where you’ve said those three little words, Valentine’s Day is likely one of the first romantic holidays that you will share together. In this case sending flowers, or small gifts to to their office will make the perfect level gesture. The majority of flower orders are placed February 11 so beat the rush and order them now!

So you’ve reached the point where some of the spark and the honeymoon phase has passed and you’re settling in to one another. It’s at this point where you want to take a big step and see how you fair it together. Book a getaway or staycation just for the two of you. Look for last minute flight deals or pick something secluded and sweet a few hours from your home city. Getting out of your normal routine will bring some of that gotta-have-you kind of sex.

Even in the happiest of relationships, outside stresses – like job frustration – can put a damper on things. When it comes to celebrating, your partner might want to do something low-key, as opposed to something that’ll require even more work than what being balanced in the office. Though 57 percent of men think the dudes are supposed to plan the Valentine’s Day date, 68 percent of women say the couple should come up with something together. Be proactive and offer three options, like, ‘Pizza, wine and a massage’ ‘Reservations at that place you’ve been wanting to go’ or ‘Netflix and takeout, plus a gift from me’. It’ll be appreciated that you thought ahead, but that you’re not going over the top. Remember, it’s not about racking up the most on your credit card it’s about showing you remembered and care.

You love your significant other, but maybe you’re craving something different – and you feel like they are, too. It’s okay for your sex life to become a little less wild the longer you date, but to add some variety into it, suggest that for Valentine’s Day, you cook dinner at home and that you will make the evening all about each other: a bubble bath for two, a hot oil massage, fuzzy bathrobe, an old movie and then, take your time. By initiating slow and sensual sex and making sure your partner is warmed up and ready to go, you’ll make the sex hotter.

Weddings are expensive. If you just got married last year, you’re likely still working on getting your savings back to where they were pre-nuptials. The weekend of Valentine’s Day bring out those wedding photos, pick up a cake flavour similar to the one you had at your reception, grab a nice bottle of champagne, and write a loving card about your first Valentine’s Day as a married couple. The sweet attention to detail will be loved and might even get some of that honeymoon sex going, too.

Regardless of how long you’ve been together, sometimes, things just aren’t easy in a relationship. Even when you love the other person dearly, you won’t always see eye-to-eye on everything. If you’re going through a tough time, take the time to write a long, kind and open letter. Suggest that you go to one of your favorite restaurants, followed by a nice wine bar and gift what you wrote. It may help to break away some of the things keeping you apart, and more importantly, open up the dialogue to get your relationship or marriage back on track.

If you’re just out of a relationship, you might be missing the company of being with someone you care about. Round up your single friends and hit the slopes, and getting away from the hearts and flowers along the streets will take your mind off of the romance. Plus, physical activity – followed by whiskey – will do you some good.

Lots of people don’t particularly care for February 14, instead, they’d rather you show how much you love them every day, not just in the middle of February. If your significant other has casually mentioned there’s no need to celebrate V-Day, take their word for it, but suggest you still do something fun since just in case. Try something neither of you have ever done before – like rock climbing, or seeing a new band. Whatever it might be, you don’t have to use Valentine’s Day as an excuse to do something exciting.

So you’ve forgotten and it’s last minute. Take a breath. Before you freak out that you’ve put yourself into the dog house, remember that there are last minute romantic things and last minute gifts you can still do. Some ideas? Buy rose petals at the florist and make a scavenger hunt around the apartment, or personally deliver flowers to their office and treat to a Valentine’s Day lunch. The biggest thing to remember about this holiday is to just make it special for your love.